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As salaamu alaikum I would like to know of any lectures about what to look for upon getting married, not once youre married how to make it a good one, but you know the common problem of these times, how two people met and in a weeks time or a little less or more than that, they marry without truely knowing anything at all about each other? Is there any lecture which you know of, that speaks about this issue in its true light ? please respond as this is urgent may Allah reward you with good. as salaamu alaikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakaatuh

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The links most to all of them i'm aware of aswell as the ahadeeth , jazaakAllahu khair. and the links or references do not have to be in english, they can be in fusha aswell no problem. If you ever in the near future hear of a book, lecture or anything on the specific topic of (i) the period of marriage which is the investigation , (ii) how it should be proceded upon and what questions and concerns should be put forth , and (iii) what is important over other matters, as this exact situation is what i need for someone.

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Also, i asked a student of knowlegde from madinah about the sit down, which the two people see each other, and he said to me that this is done AFTER you have investigated the person and are almost sure that their deen and character is upon that which you desire for marriage. This point i also need evidence for, as i see the wisdom, but a friend of mine do not, as is a common trend in the west that they look before they invesitage, he advised saying such, and added that this is why you would find a man marrying a women for how she looks rather than her religion, which is what is most important, wa Allahu ta'ala a'alam.

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"A lecture about how to attain a successful marriage. The shaykh talks about how to choose the right marriage partner, closeness between husband and wife and how it is related to Taqwa (righteousness and Fear of Allah) and Imaan, etc."