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Abu-Mariam
21-09-2002 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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Bismillah

Assallaamu alaikum

Akhi kareem (Yusuf) jazakAllahu khairan for your 'naseeha' to us regarding taking the issues to the scholars.  

However akhi what I will say is not in anyway meant as a rebuttal to what you said, for verily akhi kareem you have spoken the truth inshaAllah.  

With regards to the 'naseeha' the brothers and sisters jazakamullahu khairan have given the sisters then inshaAllah this can only be of benefit to them and us.  If you look through what was written mashaAllah la quwatta illa billah then you will see that the 'naseeha' that was given was to remember Allah and to put their trust in him and so on.

However when I gave my 'naseeha' it was not taking anything away from what was said earlier but rather an addition.  Alhumdulillah Allah has given me the ability and expertise to be able to deal with issues like this and similar and therefore I saw it as my duty to pass this to the sisters and whoever else requires it of me in the future.  And I put my trust in Allah that I will be able to help them as best as I can in order that they may become closer to their creator as a result of it.

So when I gave my 'naseeha' to the sisters in question it was from a more practical (in a sense dunya) way of looking at things.  This was done as a result of knowing what is out there and also hopefully the sisters not making the wrong mistake and going to just anyone.  As you can see one of the sisters is already saying she has heard this and she has heard that.  WAllahi when an individual is desperate sometimes they will go to any length to 'sort out' their 'problem'.

WAllahi akhi we as juhaal must know our limits and know that if we know not what we are talking about then it is best to refrain from talking.  As this may make the situation a lot worse than it is.  A'oothu billah.

So inshaAllah I hope that this issue is now clear and we can continue to benefit one another where possible.  

I apologise to the two sisters in question for referring to them throughout this post, as the situation must be hard enough as it is without having to think 'have I caused all of this fitnah on the computer from asking my question?'.

Brothers and sisters please if you have any queries, worries or concerns then please ask via this forum as I know that there are mashaAllah la quwatta illa billah some knowledgable brothers who are on this forum and are also english speaking.  For verily if we cannot trust the salafiyyoon with our problems concerns and so on then who will we trust?

If I have said anything to upset anyone then please forgive me.

Akhukum fillah

Abu Mariam al-Atharee

SubhanakAllah humma wa bihamdika ashhadu Allah ilaaha illa anta wa astagfiruka wa'a tubuilayk.

Wassallaamu alaikum

abu.sagheer
21-09-2002 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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May Allah reward all those who contributed to this thread, and alhamdulillah this thread is an indication of what can be found amongst Salafis of good advice, good akhlaaq, and wishing good for their brothers and sisters.

umm_khadijah
22-09-2002 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

Brother,Yemeni Salafi,it is fine by me if u want to post the answers given in reply to the question,as like u said it may be of benefit to other people who suffer these kind of things.Although u should wait for the other sisters response to your question as it also involves her.May Allah reward u all for your efforts ameen.


Assalamu Alaykum wa rahmatullah.

umm_abdillah
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Assalam Aleikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

I have no problem with the answer being posted, InshAllah.

BarakAllahu Fikum.

Alhamdulillah ala Islam wa Sunnah!

AbuAbbasAlBukhariy
11-12-2002 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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Assalamu 'alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh

I went quickly through this beneficial discussion between salafi brothers and sisters and decided to add my point of view.
Firstly, May Allaah reward those brothers and sisters who sincerely advised the sister?generally some advised to make dhikr ,dua..read Quran?etc?and brother yemenisalafi also advised to contact our scholars..all these are alhamdulillah very good important advices ..which we have to seriously consider?

Secondly, I want to say that my wife has also similar kind of problem which ummkhadeejah has. It is similar. My wife starts panicing usually night time when she is alone and when i am out. Also she starts panicing if sudden change happens in her life like for example simply if sofa is moved from one place to another new place then she starts panicing. Because things have changed from its normal state. And firstly i did not take note of it but later i asked her clearly what the problem was and she explained it to me and I understood what is the situation. And I tried to make her busy with things which are more beneficial. Like for example we organized daily learning of Quran..and reading book and learning arabic. And I also told her to visit her sisters more often especially if they have study circles or invite them home and I told her to tell me if this panicing thing starts again and asked her to tell me the reason behind it. So after that panic came sometimes then after knowing the reason I told her of her mistake in her way of thinking. Because it seems in here that many women as well men have this kind of problems..so sister ummkhadijah do not think that you r only one person and your problem does not exist in other people...and getting more panic because of that. These kind of problems exist in many people. They even have more worse cases i do not even want to mention. Therefore my advise to you is to thank Allaah for that your situation is not difficult comparing to others. My wife became better after all these sisters meetings..and learning a new thing every day..and attending walimahs..aqiqahs helped her alhamdulillah?because in there seeing other sisters and being together in goodness helped her eeman to increase and she started to look into things with different approach.. Seems you just have to change the way you think like for exampe. .children are sick. Seems you think the way that it is end of this world when children are sick and you think it is only you who takes care of children?and you fear that you might not be able to do it. This is negative thinking? people with such problems usually think negatively?But why u do not think positive way for example by thinking: Alhamdulillah 'ala kulli haal this is one of the tests of Allaah ?and I am not alone here to look after children ..i have my husband ..family relatives?and i put my trust in Allaah?and inshaAllaah i get reward for this patience?and if for example your children have flu?you must thank Allaah that they did not have a sickness which is worse than that?you have to thank Allaah for that. You have to think this way. And remember ayah when Allaah said concerning the companions of prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam;"Men said to them,"A great army is gathering against you so fear them. That only increased them in faitg saying:For us Allaah suffices and He is best disposer of affairs. They returned with grace and bounty from Allaah.No harm ever touched them" Soorah Aali-'Imraan verses 173-174. Also remember what Khadijah said to soothe Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was horrified in the cave: "Allaah will never disgrace you, you unite uterine relations, you bear the burden of the weak, you help the poor and the needy, you entertain the guests and endure hardship in the path of truthfulness. "Sahih Al Bukhari . That is how we should entrust our matters to Allaah. Imaam Shafi'i said:" How close is patience to relief. One who fears Allaah in his affairs, is delivered. One who testifies and believes in Allaah, is not afflicted with agony.One who reposes his hopes to Him will have his hopes fulfilled". As Sijistani said:" There are many hardships which a man seems unable to bear, while Allaah has a way out from them. They press him hard and tighten the noose around his neck. All of a sudden he finds a relief while having an impression that he would succumb to them." (Taken from tafsir ibn katheer part 30 summarized english translation page 97.)
Do not think that Allaah leaves you alone?rather Allaah is with you?always remember Allaah ..Do not think you are alone , do not think that no one helps you?Alhamdulillah you have children who will look after you and husband who takes care of you..and you have other relatives and you have salafis around you who want you good and alhamdulillah Allaah guided you to the way of Salaf who can have more than this?? ?Also look around yourself how kuffar live like an animal..look around yourself how many people in morning wake up with no Islam how many people die with no Islam..but Allaah guided to Islam made you muslim  who can have more than this?? Also look situation of many muslims around you some of them changed Islam some of them even forgotten?some of them worship other than Allaah?some of them are misguided?but Alhamdulillah Allaah guided to the way of Salaf..to the way of Ahlul jannah?to the way of Saved Victorious group?You should be thankful to Allaah..salafis are few in number and you are one of them inshaAllaah who can have more than this?? In here where i live there is not much salafies only 1 or 2 ?I always hope that we had more salafis in here and we could have islamic gatherings and increase our knowledge and help each other in righteousness..many muslims in here give their child to christian schools to study because they do not have islamic school ..but what about you? you live in birmingham?there are many salafis there?they have dawah center?masjid..salafi school islamic circles..scholars are visiting there?alhamdulillah who can have more than this?? You also have family..husband..children?look how many people do not have family?cannot have children for many years?but Allaah granted you with family husband..children?look how many around you are blind..or deaf..or disabled but Alhamdulillah Allaah gave you eyes to see, ears to hear..and you are not disabled? who can have more than this??  Look how many and how much bounties Allaah gave you?which many people cannot have?You have to think in this way. If something bad happens?do not panic?but have patience?and know that Allaah knows everything and put your trust in Allaah and work together with your husband.  Try to be more active .Spending much time on Internet is not good?You can get more benefit if you work together more with your husband?
Also ,my advice to you is like yemenisalafi brother said talk with your husband..do not think that he will not understand you but rather he will understand you and will be happy that you are asking his advise and help?May be it is possible that your husband also trying to understand what your problem is and did not have chance to ask you about it? You have to be open with your husband and tell everything without leaving anything .tell it with soft speech?in a manner of understanding? And then your husband can help you more than we can help you?he will contact scholars himself?etc?do what it should be done ..You have to work together when you have problems?

We ask Allaah to help you..and to increase your eemaan and patience.

Wa'alaykum salam
Abu Abbas.

This message was edited by AbuAbbasAlBukhariy on 12-11-02 @ 3:25 PM

AbooTasneem
15-01-2003 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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As Salaamu Alaikum

Can anyone give some advice on why a person has "Panic Attacks", and how they can control it from happening from them. May Allaah reward you!

Aboo Tasneem

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abu.buthaina
16-01-2003 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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as-salaam alaykum,

I know of one Muslim Physchiatrist who used to operate in Bradford, the trouble is the man is far far far removed from dawat as-salafeeya.

If you are still interested I will try to get his details for you insha Allaah.

wa salaam alaykum

ifthikar.saifudeen
16-01-2003 @ 12:00 AM    Notify Admin about this post
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wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatullah brother Dawoud,

I found the following on webmd.com:

Panic Disorder Topic Overview :  

http://my.webmd.com/content/healthwise/23/5667.htm?lastselectedguid={5FE84E90-BC77-4056-A91C-9531713CA348}

The Topic contents to the right of the article should give you more info inshallah.  


and Allah knows best,

wassalaam,

Ifthikar




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