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UmmDjafar Rayana bint Atraf
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Bismillah
AsSalam 'aleykum wa rahmatallahi wa barakatuhu
Help me find the answer of my question Inshaallah
On Caucasus, by tradition, mother of husband name - mum, it is authorized on Sheriyat?
Djazakumma Llahu kheyr
Alhamdulillah
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| ukhti_raya
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UmmDjafar Rayana bint Atraf
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Bismillah
AsSalam 'aleykum wa rahmatallahi wa barakatuhu
Who will not help me with the answer?
Please help Fisabilillah
Djazakumma llahu kheyr
Alhamdulillah
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| abunurani
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abu naimah Shamsuddin ibn Harold Simmons
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wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah;
pls supply more information as to exactly what you're talking about and perhaps, insha'allah, someone could supply some information/direction.
Abu Nurani Shamsuddin
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Abu Abdullah Ekbal Hussain bin Siraj
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Wa Alaikumus Salam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Ukhti, Maybe the question wasn't phrased clearly. I think You should try to rephrase Your question insha Allah. And like our Brother Abu Nurani suggested, try to supply a little bit more information, so Your question becomes a bit more clearer for everybody.
Please take care Sister. I hope somebody answers the question insha Allah.
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UmmDjafar Rayana bint Atraf
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Bismillah
AsSalam aleykum wa rahmatallahi wa barakatuhu
excuse me
On northern Caucasus there is a tradition at Muslim ignoramuses - the wife should name the mother-in-law - mum, instead of by name. Whether there is something about it in E048A0E or in opinions of correct scientists?
Djazakumma llahu kheyr
Alhamdulillah
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| abunurani
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abu naimah Shamsuddin ibn Harold Simmons
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wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah;
thank you for the clarification and I pray that someone will able to assist you. But it does appear that this is a custom of the area and those who are knowledgable about "customs" and their bearing with this Deen will be able to answer your question, insha'allah.
We have customs in America that we end having to break because there maybe some other religious significance behind it. Such as visitation to family affairs that are christian in origin/nature. Another is the women taking on the last name of the husband upon marriage.
May Allah Ta'Ala bless and guide you in your affair.
Abu Nurani Shamsuddin
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rizwan ali
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salaam alaikum. I hope this post finds all the people in good health and thebest of emaan. this is an interesting thread. in the pakistani customs. it is said that the wife takes on the name of the husband but i heard that it is haraam for this as the women is meant to retain her identity wich is that of her fathers name. seeing as i married in pakistan it has now become law that the wife take on the first name of her husband hence my wifes surname is my first name.
In my opinion i think this is borrowing from hindu tradition where the girl is then in a way cut off from her family in a way that says she belongs to another family and therfore having to adopt the name of her husband and drop her name, the name of her father. as many people kno in pakistan our customs, the majority of them, are based on hindu traditions and general ignorrance.
so if some one has any more points of benefit that they could help us with then we would al lappreciate it
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abu naimah Shamsuddin ibn Harold Simmons
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AL-HAMDULILLAHI TA'ALA WA SALATU WA SALAMU 'ALA RASULULLAH, WA 'ALA ALIHI WA SAHBIHI WA SALAM.
Amma b'ad:
salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah;
'Urf [custom, or local conventions] have long been recognized by the fuqaha/jurist [i.e. Shaikh-ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah-ramahullah, contemporarily, Shaikh Ibn Uthaymeen-rahimahullah & The Standing Committee of Religious Scholars of Saudi Arabia-hafidhahumullah]. 'Urf must not go against The Book of Allah nor the Authenticated Sunnah. Please continue to consult the Ulama concerning 'Urf of any area.
In western society it is considered of good manners/politeness to refer to your spouse's parents as Mr. or Mrs. Fulan Fulan or to address them as "Mom/Ma" (the next generation of young Muslims here address the mother-in-law as umm), or the father-in-law as "Pop/Pa/ab".
This was an interesting matter, but it is clearly an issue of custom, but having manners is universal, and a Muslim is a person of manners, al-Hamdulillah.
May Allah, Azza wa Jall, find us worthy to be placed amongst those whom He refers to as "the best amongst mankind."
Abu Nurani Shamsuddin
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