| Topic: We are Brothers!!!
ibn Ahmad Maher ibn Ahmad
Joined: Nov 2006
Those points brother Sajid alluded to from Abu 'Abdullaah Hasan as-Sumaalee's khutba "We are Brothers!" on the Importance of brotherhood in Islam are as follows:
1- Loving one another for the sake of Allaah
2- Gentleness, and kindness, compassion and mercy
3- Not allowing shaytan to split the ranks [avoid differing]
4- Defending the honor of a Muslim
6- Exchange gifts
7- Making du'aa for your brother in his absence
[First a brief introduction from the end of the first khutba]
Ikhwaan wa khawaat, let us be like those whom Allaah described in His Book:
Allaah said: And those who came after them say: "Our Lord! Forgive us and our brethren who have preceded us in Faith, and put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed. Our Lord! You are indeed full of kindness, Most Merciful. (Al-Hashr 59:10)
Look at how the believers used to behave with one another. As Allaah informs us about them, they used to supplicate for one another. Our Lord! Forgive us and our brethren who have preceded us in Faith.
And ikhwaan, this applies to those who are elders in our community. That they are respected and they are honored, because they preceded us in faith. Not frowned upon and looked down upon, as some of us do. And they supplicate as Allaah informs us. [O Allaah:] Put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed.
And I ask Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala) that he removes any hatred or rancor from all of our hearts. [End of First Khutba]
[Beginning of Second Khutba]
Ikhwaan, in the second part of the khutba, by Allaah's Permission, we will continue to mention some ways and measures from the authentic Sunnah of Muhammad (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) that if implemented will strengthen the ties of brotherhood amongst us.
-The first thing and most important thing, which will strengthen brotherhood amongst us is loving one another for the sake of Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala). The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said in an authentic hadith in Sahih Muslim, and listen to this hadith, ya ikhwaan. Pay attention to the words of Muhammad (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) that contain many lessons and many benefits.
The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "A man visited a brother of his in another town and Allaah appointed an angel to guard him on his way. When he came to him, the angel said, 'Where are you going?' He said, 'I am going to a brother of mine in this town.' He said, 'Do you have some property with him that you want to check on?' He said, 'No, it is only that I love him for the sake of Allaah Almighty.' He said, 'I am a messenger of Allaah to you to tell you that Allaah loves you as you love this man for His sake.'"
|Ya Ikhwaan! The love of Allaah (subhanahuwa taa'ala)! If Allaah loves you, who can harm you? If Allaah loves you, who can plot against you? If Allaah loves you, then who can prevent you from making progress? Imagine a community of people whom Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala) loves, because they love one another for the sake of Allaah. They would be unstoppable, as the companions (may Allaah be pleased with them) were unstoppable, spreading the message of al-Islam throughout the Earth and being an example for the whole of mankind. If we do not love one another for the sake of Allaah ('azza wajall), then we will be deprived of this love of Allaah. And if a person is deprived of the love of Allaah, then we all know how he will end up.
Loving one another for the sake of Allaah, ya ikhwan, many of us feel ashamed - even myself, sometimes - [to say it]. Sometimes, you see a brother and you want to say "Uhibuka fil Allaah" [I love you for the sake of Allaah]. But you're uncomfortable because it makes you look "soft." It makes you look "weak", according to what you believe - again opposing the guidance of Muhammad (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam). That mentality needs to be placed under our foot. That mentality needs to be washed away, because it opposes the religion of Allaah (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam).
The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) informed us of a way to cement the ties of brotherhood. He (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "If one of you loves his brother, then let him inform his brother that he loves him."
Is that soft, ya 'Abdullaah? Are you stronger than the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam)? And you cannot differentiate between that which is tough and that which is weak. The weak are the ones who follow the devil when inspires them to oppose the [Qur'an] and the Sunnah.
Shaikh ul-Islaam ibn Taymiyyah (rahimahullaah) mentioned: How can a person differentiate between inspiration that comes from the devil and inspiration that comes from Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala)? It's simple. Compare your feelings to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of Muhammad (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam). If your feelings are in accordance to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), then this is from Allaah. If it contradicts the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of Muhammad (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), then it is from the devil and your own soul. And seek refuge in Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala) from the accursed shaytan. If you don't, then you're only going to harm yourself.
-The second measure that if implemented will cement the ties of brotherhood amongst us: gentleness and kindness. Compassion and mercy, not harshness, not toughness.
As Allaah said in the Qur'an, "And by the Mercy of Allaah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-ıhearted, they would have broken away from about you;" (Aali Imran 3:159)
Gentleness and kindness, ya 'Abdullaah. Smiling, be warm, which is from the guidance of Muhammad (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam). As the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihiwasallam) was described in the Taurat, in the hadeeth reported by one of the companions in Sahih Bukhari, as "a man who was not harsh or stern. Rather, he forgave and he pardoned."
The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) used to smile when he shook the hands of his companions. He was compassionate and merciful. Allaah said about him (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam):
"Verily, there has come unto you a Messenger from amongst yourselves. It grieves him that you should receive any injury or difficulty. He (Muhammad) is anxious over you (to be rightly guided); for the believers (he is) full of pity, kind, and merciful." (At-Tawbah 9:128)
-The third measure, ikhwaan, that needs to be implemented to cement the ties of brotherhood, and not allow shaytan to split the ranks of the believers - do not let shaytan weaken our ranks. Because if we differ, if we don't behave as we have been commanded to behave, we will be weak.
[Allaah said:]And obey Allaah and His Messenger, and do not dispute (with one another) lest you lose courage and your strength depart, and be patient. Surely, Allaah is with those who are As-Saabirin (the patient ones, etc.). (Al-Anfal 8:46) Obey Allaah and His Messenger in everything - not in part of the Deen, and leave part. Obey Allaah and His Messenger in every aspect of the Deen and do not differ. Because, if you differ, you will lose heart and you will be weak because your strength will disappear.
-The [fourth] measure, ikhwaan wa khawaat, that needs to be implemented to preserve the ties of brotherhood is defending the honor of a Muslim. Yes, ya 'Abdullaah, defending the honor of a Muslim, or Muslima. [This is] something that is very rare in our time. The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "If someone is in a gathering, and the believer is backbiten. And they defend the believer, Allaah will reward them with good in this life and the hereafter for that act. And if a believer is backbiten, and those in a gathering do not aid their brother, Allaah will repay them with evil in this life and the hereafter."
Maybe that's why we have so many problems. Maybe that's why there is so much differing. Because people are being repaid with evil, because people are being slandered and mud is thrown against the wall, and nobody is defending the honor of their brother or sister.
The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said in an authentic hadeeth, "Whoever defends the honor of his brother, then Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala) will protect his face on the day of Judgment."
|Imagine, ya ikhwan, a community that protects the honor of their brothers. Who can harm them? Who can stop them?
-The [fifth] measure to be implemented to cement the ties of brotherhood is is Anasiha, sincere advice. What does advice mean? Advising means that you want good for the one you are advising, seeking the face of Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala), because you recognize that ADeen Anasiha. Religion is advice. Advice, ya ikhwan, if it is private it remains private - not that you spread all over the world. "I advised, my brother," [or] "I pulled him up." That's not advise; that is fadhiha (trying to expose him). You are trying to have your ego stroked. And how many people want their ego stroked in this time, ya ikhwan? How many people fail to realize that this thing is bigger than all of us. This is The Religion of Allaah, with which nobody can play games. If someone chooses to play games, then Allaah ('azza wajall) will deal with them in a befitting manner.
The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, clarifying the way advise should be given, Al Mu`minuu miraaa`tu akhee "The believer is like a mirror to his brother." What is a mirror? You have a mirror on the wall and before you go outside, you look in the mirror. If something is out of place, you correct it. Then you go, and you leave the house. And nobody [no human] knows what happened in your house - except for you and the mirror. That is advice. You advise the brother and it remains between you and him. If you see a deficiency and a fault, you correct it. You don't expose it all over the world. That is not advise.
The sahaaba (companions) - again the golden era - those who valued brotherhood and did everything they could to preserve it, they recognized the value of advise. Everytime they met one another, they would not depart until they advised one another with Surat al-'Asr.
By Al-'Asr (the time). Verily! Man is in loss, Except those who believe (in Tawheed) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth (Al-Ma'ruf, and abstaining from Al-Munkar) and recommend one another to patience (for the sufferings, harms, and injuries which one may encounter in Allaah's Cause during preaching His religion of Tawheed or Jihaad, etc.). (Al-'Asr 103:1-3)
These were the companions of the Messenger of Allaah (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam). Ya akhee, when you give advice, as mentioned by Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah) that advise is not when you say to the one you're advising "You are ignorant" or you have a frown on your face or you look like you want to bite the brother's or sister's head off. That's not advice, ya akhee. That's not advice, ya ukhtee. Advice is when you humble yourself and you make your brother feel like you love them and you want good for them. And that if any harm befalls them, or if they slip, that you care for them and you want to correct their mistake - not humiliate them.
And how many people coat [conceal] their alterior motives? And they coat it and sugar it with their main nasiha, but they are ignorant of the way that advise should be given.
When we advise, we do not advise the one who is senior to us the way we advise a child. There is a difference. When we advise, we do not advise the ones in charge as we advise the common people. There is a difference. Let us learn how to give advice, and the meaning of advice. and the reason for advise. Advise is because we want good for our brother. We want good for our sister, and we want to unite upon the Book and the Sunnah, upon the understanding of the Salaf of this Ummah.
-Another measure, ya ikhwaan, to cement the ties of brotherhood, and stop the shaytan and the army of shaytan from causing disunity amongst the believers. The Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) in an authentic hadeeth said, Tahaadu tahaabu "Exchange gifts with one another, so you may love one another." And this is something absent in many places. A Sunnah that is lost in many places.
Many of us we go to our brother and say, "Akhee, do you need anything?" That's a mistake. Don't go to anyone and ask them, "Do you need anything?," because when you ask them, "Do you need anything?," if they say "yes", they are humiliating themselves in front of you. They are lowering themselves in front of you. If you want to give, [then] give! Don't ask him if he needs something. This is an error! This is an error that is widespread. Again, out of good thoughts for the people, maybe it was a misunderstanding. That's why 'Abdullaah ibn 'Abbaas (radiallaahu 'anhuma) said to his cousin, "The best way that you could give someone something is without them asking for it, because when you ask for it, they are humiliating themselves in front of you."
Tahaadu tahaabu Exchange gifts, as the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, and you will love one another.
The list is long, ikhwaan, however the time is short... However, we will suffice with the last measure.
-Last measure that needs to be implemented to cement the ties of brotherhood, so that we may establish masaajid, schools, things for ourselves, and if not ourselves, then our children... Making du'aa for your brother in his absence.
[Here is an authentic hadeeth of the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) but first] I'll mention a story of how the hadith was narrated. Sufwaan ibn 'Abdullaah Sufwaan said, "I travelled to Shaam. When I got there I found Umm Darda in her house. Abu Darda was absent. So Umm Darda said, "Do you want to make hajj this year? So Sufwaan responded, 'Naa'am (yes), I want to make hajj.' So Umm Darda said, 'Supplicate to Allaah that He grants us good.' [Khateeb's Interjection: Listening to that, you may think, how will this individual making du'aa for Umm Darda help him make hajj?] Umma Darda explained [Khateeb's Interjection: Again, look at the sahaaba. Look how they implemented the Sunnah, because they understood that brotherhood was from Allaah. It was a blessing, and not anything that they directly could bring about.] She said, the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, 'When a brother supplicates for his Muslim brother in his absence, then his du'aa is answered by Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala).' And "Everytime a brother supplicates for his brother in his absence, an angel by his head says, "Ameen walaka bimithl (Ameen, and may you have the same).'"
So if you want good, ya 'Abdullaah, then make du'aa for your brother, supplicate for your brother. If you see that he is in hardship and he needs assistance and aid, [make a du'aa for him].
Brothers and sisters, may Allaah bless you. This was a glimpse at the importance of brotherhood in al-Islam, and a glimpse of some of the measures that need to be implemented. I leave you with this. If we truly have this mentality, and each and everyone one of feels this is our da'wah, we want to support it wherever it is and we want to see it spread more than anything in our life. That is what we want. We want to assist the Deen of Allaah. We want to assist our community. We want to assist our brothers and sisters. If we don't feel this way, then obviously there is a problem. And I'll leave you with a statement I mentioned last week.
Ibn Taymiyyaah (rahimahullaah) said,
|"The Sunnah is connected to the Jama'ah, like Bid'ah is to splitting. So we say: Ahlus-Sunnah wal Jama'ah, and [we say concerning people of bid'ah] Ahlul-Bid'ah wal Firqa."
Why, because - as Shaikh ul-Islaam mentions - unity and brotherhood and togetherness are from the fundamentals of this religion. A fundamental that has priority over a [fiq] subsidiary branch issue.
Subhanak Allaahuma wa bihamdika ash-hadu anlaa illaaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilayk
If I said anything correct, then it is from Allaah (subhanahu wa taa'ala), and if I erred, then that is from me and shaytan.
Joined: Jul 2005
We are Brothers!!!
By Abu 'Abdullaah Hasan as-Sumaalee
An emotionally inspiring khutbah on the topic of brotherhood, the blessing of it, the vital important of it and the destruction of division and separation amongst a community. The second part of the khutbah mentions some key points that will preserve brotherhood and stamp out disunity.
Allaah, the Majestic mentioned in his Noble Qurıaan,
The believers are nothing else than brothers. So make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allaah, that you may receive mercy. (Al-Hujurat 49:10)
ıBrotherhood is more precious than anything on the earth...who said so Rabbul-ıAalameen....
And He has united their (i.e. believers') hearts. If you had spent all that is in the earth, you could not have united their hearts, but Allaah has united them. Certainly He is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (Al-Anfal 8:63)
..if we recognise that brotherhood is this precious, then we must be ready to stand up and defend it in the face of every troublemaker and every haughty arrogant individual who tries to ruin it. Why should we stand in their face? Because they are doing the devilıs work!! As Allaah said, ıThe devil is the one who is intent on sowing the seeds of hatred and rancour between youı...so whoever tries to ruin Islaamic brotherhood then we have to stand in his face! Because he is doing the devils work whether he is pleased with this or not!
Why does the Devil want to destroy this brotherhood?
...that is so precious and valuable, brotherhood that if we lack it we will be weak, brotherhood if we are without out, we will be susceptible, brotherhood if we are without it, we will never achieve anything. The Shaytaan is aware that if there is no brotherhood, there is no community, if there is no brotherhood, there is no cooperation, if there is no brotherhood...there is weakness.ı
Personal problems wrecking brotherhood
...many of us may be sitting in the audience today who have a beef with a brother or a problem with a sister and when we are advised ıFear Allaah ıO Brotherı then we say ıyou donıt know what he did to meı or we reply ıwell thatıs the way I feelı and some of us go further to an affair that is even more dangerous saying ıthis is not the code of the streetsı, put that under your shoe ya akhee! Put that under your shoe ya ukhtee! Because we go with the Sunnah wherever it is...have you entered into Islaam completely or do you only pick and choose...but when it goes against your soul you resemble the rest of the people of innovation!
Pardoning and forgiving
ıA Jewish women brought a poisoned sheep to the Prophet (sallallaahu ıalayhi wa sallam) and he ate that poisoned sheep...some of the Companions brought that woman to the Messenger (sallallaahu ıalayhi wa sallam) and said ıshould we not kill her?ı and he said ıNoı so who are you Abd-Allaah or Amaatullaah, when you are asked to forgive you say you are unable? You not only harm that person (who you hold a grudge against) but you harm yourself!
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