Joined: Sep 2002
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Q/A with Umm 'Abdillah Al Waadi'iyyah Bint Muqbil Bin Haadee Al Waadi'ee
Rahmatullahi 'Alaihi, Translated by Umm 'Abdur Rahmaan Hanim
1. Can sisters swim in a private area? Umm 'Abdillah said yes, it is
permissible as long as the 'awrah is covered. She went on to say that
Shaykh 'Ubaid Al Jaabiree haafidhahullah said its not permissible, don't
leave your homes to go swimming, nor for fitness, etc..He gave the aayah
from Sooratul Ahzaab "And stay in your houses..."
2. Can a pregnant woman perform Al Hijaamah (cupping/bloodletting) and
receive it?. She can practice it as long as it does not harm her.
3. Is it from Islaam to hug and kiss (on the cheeks 3 times) the person who
has just accepted Islaam? Upon accepting Islaam, hugging and kissing has
NO basis in the Deen. There is no harm if it is done sometimes. You do
not have to do it all the time.
4. Can a woman breastfeed longer than 2years? Umm 'Abdillah quoted the
aayah, "For mothers who want to complete the term for breastfeeding up to 2
years.." 2/233. There is no limit. Its left up to the mother to decide,
she can continue if she wants to. Its not a must to feed for 2 years, she
can feed so long as there is benefit for her to feed.
5. How did the Sahaabiyaat (ridhwaan 'alaihunna ajma'een) go about teaching
their children? Umm 'Abdillah gave the example of Umm Sulaym radhiyallahu
'anhaa. She was the mother of Anas radhiyallahu 'anhu. Umm Sulaym sent
Anas to serve the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam at a very young age.
He served him for 10 years. He was not a slave. Umm Sulaym encouraged
Anas to be with Rasoolullah sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam. There is no
difference between the male and female student of knowledge.
Umm Sulaym wanted Anas to get blessings and share 'ilm of the Prophet
sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. She wanted him to get practical knowledge.
Umm 'Abdillah gave another example, she spoke about the time when the
Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam sent Anas to do something for him. He
met his mother on the way. Umm Sulaym asked him where was he going, he
replied that the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam sent him somewhere.
Umm Sulaym said to him to never convey the Prophet's sallallahu 'alaihi wa
The Sahaabiyaat (radhiyallahu 'anhunna) made their children fast on the Day
of Ashoorah. They assisted their children in fasting. When the children
would cry for food, the mothers would give them toys so that they would
complete the fasting, and they completed it. The Companions stressed to
the children to accompany the scholars. Umm 'Abdillah gave the story of
Hudhayfah bin Yaman radhiyallahu 'anhu. He was the only Sahabi who knew
the names of the Munaafiqoon (hypocrites) and he kept this secret. Umm
'Abdur Rahmaan Hanim mentioned that 'Umar Al Farooq radhiyallahu 'anhu
asked about the list of names and how Hudhayfah did not reveal what the
Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam told him. So 'Umar radhiyallahu 'anhu
asked if he was on the list. Umm 'Abdur Rahmaan also mentioned the famous
hadeeth where Hudhayfah radhiyallahu 'anhu stated that the companions used
to ask about the good, but he would ask about the evil so that he would not
fall into it.
Hudhayfah radhiyallahu 'anhu was not being consistent with the Prophet
sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam and his mother noticed this. She asked him
when was the last time he was with him. She gave him a stern naseehah
(sincere advice). Hudhayfah said, "enough, enough, I will go to the
Prophet" (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam). "I will pray Salaatul Maghrib
with him then ask him to forgive me." He prayed behind the Prophet
sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he did not get a chance to speak with him so
he waited until Salaatul 'Eeshaa. Rasoolullah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa
sallam began to leave and Hudhayfah called him. He sallallahu 'alaihi wa
sallam said, "Is that Hudhayfah?" He replied, "yes." Rasoolullahi
sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Angels are present that have never
come before, Allaah forgives you and your mother." He was forgiven before
he had the chance to ask the Prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wa 'alaa aalihi wa
ashaabihi wa sallam) to forgive him. He was very much attached to the
Prophet 'alaihi salaatus salaam after that.
The Sahaabiyaat radhiyallaahu 'anhunna used to send their children out in
the best possible way. They were clean and looked good. Umm 'Abdillaah
gave the example of Faatimah (radhiyallaahu 'anhaa) Bint Rasoolillah
sallallahu 'aliahi wa sallam. She would send out Hasan and Hussein to the
Prophet in a good way. They were bathed, in good clothes and perfumed.
Umm 'Abdillah emphasized teaching the children the halaal (lawful) and
Example: Either Hasan or Hussein saw some dates next to the Prophet
sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam and went to grab some. He sallallahu 'alaihi
wa sallam stopped him to teach him. The hadeeth concerning commanding the
children to pray at age 7, discipline them for not praying at 10, separate
the beds (encourage them to pray on a regular basis) was given.
May Allah bestow HIS Rahmah and Barakaat on Umm 'Abdillaah, Umm 'Abdur
Rahmaan and everyone who worked to make the classes a success..Aameen
Was Salaamun 'Alal Mursaleen
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