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The Importance Of Marriage


Kitaab An-Nikaah, Saheeh Bukhaari Vol: 7; Hadith Number:5065






Chapter: The Statement of the Prophet (sallal'laahu'alayhi'wasallam)

'Whoever is able to marry, should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.).'  And should a person marry (even if) he has no desire for marriage?

Narrated 'Alqamah: while I was with Abdullaah, uthman met him at Mina and said, 'O Abu Abdur-Rahmaan! I have something to say to you.' So both of them went aside and uthmaan said, 'O Abu Abdur-Rahmaan!  Shall we marry you to a virgin who will make you remember your past days?  When Abdullaah felt that he was not in need of that, he beckoned me (to join him) saying, 'O Alqamah'  Then I heard him saying (in reply to uthmaan), 'As you have said that, (I tell you that) the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) once said to us, 'O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to observe fast as fasting will diminish his sexual power'.

Shaikh Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah) stated:

Therefore, to get marriage is the correct (thing to do) as a complete obligation upon the one who has shahwa (sexual desires) even if he is not in fear of falling to Zinaa.  This is with regards to the one whose situation allows him to get married.  

And in this is a (manifestation) of Uthman's righteous moral conduct.  It (shows) that the elderly person can get married as long as he has the strength for sexual relations.  

And the main address (in this hadith) is directed at the young people, because in most cases they possess greater desires and are more in need of that (i.e. fulfilment of such desires)



[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Hadith No:5065; Footnote Number 2]


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The Importance of Marrying Someone With Deen



Narrated Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu): The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: 'A woman is married for four (reasons/things); her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion.  So you should take possession of the one with Religion, otherwise you will be a loser' [Bukhaari Vol 7. No:5090]

Narrated Sahl: A man passed by Allaah's Messenger, and Allaah's Messenger asked (his companions), ııwhat do you say about this man?  They replied, 'If he asks for a lady's hand, he ought to be given her in marriage; and if he intercedes (for someone), his intercession will be accepted; and if he speaks, he will be listened to.' Allaah's Messenger kept silent, and then another man from the poor Muslims passed by, and Allaah's Messenger asked (them), 'what do you say about this man?'  They replied, 'If he asks for a ladyıs hand in marriage, no one will accept him, and if he intercedes (for someone), his intercession will not be accepted; and if he speaks, he will not be listened to'. Allaah's Messenger said, 'This poor man is better than so many of the first as to fill the earth'[hadith No:5091]

Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah) said:

This clarifies that what matters is the religion (of a person) and not wealth and status......and all these (men) were from the Sahaabah.end of quote]
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This is not to say that one becomes lazy and refrains from striving to provide for his family.  Inshaa-Allaah we'll post those ahaadith in that regard.  

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Chapter: About (marrying) several women; Saheeh Bukhaari; Vol 7; Hadith Number:5069




Narrated Said Bin Jubair (radiyallaahu-anhu): Ibn Abbaas (radiyallaahu-anhumaa) asked me, 'Are you married?'  I replied, 'No'  He said, 'Marry, for the best person of this Ummah (i.e. Muhammad) had the largest number of wives.'

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Fear Allaah O Muslims And Take Heed Of The Following Advice


Shaikh Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah) said:

If a person marries (several women) in order to protect himself from (Zina) and for an increase in numbers of children; then there is no problem in this; but not for the (purpose) of playing around.    

And Shaikhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah stated in Majmoo Al-Fataawaa:

And if the need for divorce is not called for, then the proofs necessitates that it is forbidden as demonstrated by the narrations and the fundamental principles; but Allaah has permitted divorce out of mercy from Himself due to the slaves need of it at times.  And He made it forbidden in (certain) places......end of quote

[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Hadith Number:5069.  Footnote Number 3]

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Chapter: To Marry Virgins Vol 7 Hadith Number:5077




Narrated Aisha (radiyallaahu-anhaa): I said, 'O Allaah's Messenger! Suppose you landed in a valley where there is a tree of which something has been eaten and then you found trees of which nothing has been eaten, of which tree would you let your camel graze?'  He said: 'I will let my camel graze of the one of which nothing has been eaten before.'  The sub narrator added: Aisha meant that Allaah's Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) had not married a virgin besides herself.

Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz stated:

'In this is an encouragement to marry a virgin/virgins; for she has not been put to any trial by the people and this is more likely to (bring about) harmony between her and her husband; except when the need calls for other than that'(i.e. when a man marries other than a virgin as occurs in the story of Jaabir; who married a matron in order that she can help look after his very young sisters).end of quote

The Hadith Of Jaabir

Chapter: A Lady Should Help Her Husband In Looking After His Children

Narrated Jaabir Bin Abdullaah (radiyallaahu-anhu) my father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron.  Allaah's Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said to me, ''O Jaabir! Have you married?''  I said, ''Yes''.  He said, ''A virgin or a matrone?''  I replied, ''A matron''.  He said, ''Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you.''  I said, ''Abdullaah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them'' On that he said, ''May Allaah bless you,'' or ''That is good''

[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Hadith Number: 5077; Footnote:3]
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Note: It is encouraged to marry virgins, as stated by Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah). However, one should also bear in mind that the most important thing is that a man should marry a pious woman and that a woman should look to the deen of a man.  Likewise, Sheikh Falaah Ismaaeel (hafidha-hullaah) encouraged the brothers and sisters with polygamy.

To be continued.......Inshaa-Allaah

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Chapter: The Marrying Of A Young Lady To An Elderly Man




Narrated Urwa: The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) asked AbuBakr (radiyallaahu-anhu) for Aisha's hand in marriage.  AbuBakr said, 'But I am your brother.'  The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said, 'You are my brother in Allaah's Religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry' [Hadith No:5081]

Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahimahullaah) said:

(So) this is evident, that brotherhood for Allaah's Sake and friendship does not prevent (a person from marrying the daughter of his friend).  What is forbidden for a brother is to marry (those) relatives forbidden for him; (such as the marriage of a man to his blood brother's daughter etc)

[Source: Al-Hulalul Ibreeziyyah Min At-Taleeqaat Al-baaziyyah Alaa Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree Volume 4; Footnote Number:1]

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A Noble Example For All Believers To Follow


The Patience Of Yusuf (alayhis-salaam) And His Fear Of Allaah In Turning Away From The One Who Called Him To The Evil And Shameful Act Of Zinaa





Imaam Sadi (rahimahullaah) mentioned some of the difficult circumstances Yusuf faced at the time when he was being called to the evil act of Zinaa.  

[1] Firstly; Allaah has placed in man's nature an inclination towards a woman, just like the inclination of a thirsty person towards water and that of a hungry person towards food.  And even though many people do exercise patience with regards to their (desire) for food and drink, but not with regards to their (desire) for women.  This is not (something) blameworthy if it is in accordance with what is permissible, rather it is something praiseworthy.

[2] Yusuf (at the time) was a young man, and the sexual desire of a young man is much stronger.

[3] He was a bachelor.

[4] He was a slave of the Azeez's wife and was bought for a few dirhams.  And a slave has no control over his affairs.

[5] He was a stranger in the land; a stranger in a strange land can fulfil desires, which he is not able to fulfil in his own land and in the presence of his family and those who know him well.

[6] The wife of the Azeez was a woman of high status and beauty; so one these two (affairs) calls one to agree with her request.

[7] The wife of the Azeez was not inaccessible.

[8] She sought after Yusuf; she desired him and was infatuated with him.  Many many men become filled with vanity/pride when a woman (merely) waves or winks at them.

[9] Yusuf was living in her house.  He was under her authority and would have feared being harmed for refusing to obey her in what she was calling him to.

[10] Yusuf was safe from being exposed; because she sought after him and locked the doors.

[11] She also appeared in her best adornment and said to Yusuf, 'Come on O you!'

[12] She also threatened Yusuf with imprisonment and belittlement.

[13] She sought the assistance of the rest of the women and Yusuf sought the assistance of Allaah against them.  He said:

'Unless You (Allaah) turn away their plot from me, I will feel inclined towards them and be one (of those who commit sin and deserve blame or those who do deeds) of the ignorant' [Surah Yusuf; Ayah: 33]
  
Despite all these difficult circumstances surrounding Yusuf (alayhis-salaam), he exercised patience and preferred obedience to his Lord.  He preferred the pleasure of Allaah and fear of Him.  His love of Allaah made him choose imprisonment over committing adultery.  He said:

'He said: 'O my Lord! Prison is dearer to me than that to which they invite me.' [Surah Yusuf; Ayah: 33]

Yusuf knew that he could not avert what they were calling him to; and that if his Lord does not protect him and avert the plot of those women, he will be inclined towards them and become of the ignorant ones.  This is from Yusuf's perfect knowledge about his Lord and himself.



So What Was The End Result?




Yusuf was granted honour and authority in the land.  He was mentioned with good and beautiful praise.  This was his reward in this worldly life and his reward in the hereafter is Paradise.

[For further details, refer to the book titled: 'Al-Asbaab Wal A'maal Allatee Yudaa-afu Bihaa Ath-Thawaab'; by Imaam Sadi; pages: 55-58]

To be continued...Inshaa-Allaah
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We ask Allaah to grant us Tawfeeq in following the example of the pure and chaste people.  Let us take all the means provided by the Sharee'ah of Islaam to guard against that which may lead to fitnah and lewdness or that which may ignite corrupt, sinful, despicable and shameless desires in the hearts of the believers (men and women).  

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Very Beneficial Speech Regarding Polygamy In 'Adwaa Ul Bayaan' Of Imaam Shanqeeti And 'Sharh Muntiq' Of Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh Al-Uthaimeen (Rahimahumallaah)





Imaam Shanqeeti (rahimahullaah)

Allaah (subhaanah) said:

'Verily, this Qur'aan guides to that which is most just and right' [Surah Israa; Ayah: 9]

And from the guidance of the Qur'aan to that which is Most just and right, is that it allows four wives in number; and if the man fears that he cannot be just between them, then he is to restrict himself to one or those whom his right hand possesses, as Allaah (The Most High) stated:

'And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan- girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess.' [Surah Nisaa; Ayah:3]

No doubt the path that is the most just and right of paths is that which legitimizes polygamy, due to perceptible affairs known to every sensible person.

And from those affairs; is that an individual woman menstruates, falls ill and contends with other hindrances that prevent her from fulfilling the more specific duties of marriage; whereas a man is readily prepared as a means to increasing the Ummah.  

And from those affairs is; Allaah made it a common phenomenon that men are fewer in number than women in the various regions of the world and are more often exposed to the causes of death in all walks of life.  If a man were restricted to one wife, there would remain a great number of women deprived of marriage, so they (both men and women) will be strongly urged towards illegal sexual intercourse.

So turning away from the guidance of the Qur'aan in this affair of (polygamy) is from the greatest causes of moral deprivation; it is (from the greatest causes) of being lowered to the level of animals with regards to a lack of safeguarding chastity, preservation of nobility, good moral conduct and manners.      

So Glorified and Exalted is (Allaah) above all that evil they associate with Him, The All-Wise, Well-Acquainted with all things.  

'(This is) a Book, the verses whereof are perfected (in every sphere of knowledge), and then explained in detail from One (Allaah), Who is All-Wise, Well-Acquainted (with all things)' [Surah Hood; Ayah: 1]

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No doubt the path that is the most just and right of paths is that which legitimizes polygamy, due to perceptible affairs known to every sensible person.

And from those affairs is that women are all readily prepared for marriage, whereas many men do not have the ability to fulfill the requirements of marriage due to poverty.  Those prepared for marriage amongst men are fewer than those amongst women. A woman is not hindered, whereas a man is hindered by poverty and the ability to fulfill the requirements of marriage.  

If a man were restricted to one woman, many women prepared for marriage would have missed the opportunity for marriage and in finding a husband.  This will become a cause for lost of virtue.  (It will be a cause) for depravation and moral decadence, and the opportunity to preserve the human race would be lost.      

So if a man fears that he will not be able to deal justly between the wives, then it is incumbent upon him to restrict himself to one or to those whom his right hand possesses; because Allaah has stated:

'Verily, Allaah enjoins Al-Adl (i.e. justice and worshipping none but Allaah Alone - Islamic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsaan [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allaah, totally for Allaah's sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allaah has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help, etc.)'[Surah Nahl; Ayah: 90]

And it is impermissible to incline towards preferential (treatment) with regards to the sharee'ah rights (given to each of the wives), due to the saying of Allaah;

'You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married).' [Surah Nisaa; Ayah: 129]

As for the natural inclination towards loving some of them more than others, the human being is incapable of preventing this; because it is an emotional (affair) and the soul's desire, and not an action that is carried out. This is what is intended by Allaah's statement:

'You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives' [Surah Nisaa; Ayah: 129]

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A Reply To Some Of The Worthless Statements Of Disbelievers/Atheists




The Claim: And the claim of some of the disbelievers amongst the enemies of Islaam is that polygamy inevitably brings about constant argumentation and disagreement which ends up in a life of misery; because whenever one of the wives is pleased the other is angered, so the two (wives) are always in displeasure and this is not wisdom.

Reply: This (above statement of some of the disbelievers) is a worthless statement, whose worthlessness is perceptible to every sensible person; because argumentation and disagreement between individual members of a family does not bring about separation in the least.  It occurs between a man and his mother; between him and his father; between him and his children and between him and his only wife.  It is a common affair of no great concern.  

And this argumentation and disagreement of no great concern (occurs) alongside the overriding tremendous benefits of polygamy, with regards to safeguarding women and facilitating marriage for them, and in increasing the number of the Ummah so that they can stand firm against the enemies of Islaam in every affair; and an overriding tremendous benefit takes precedence over prevention of a small harm.

And even if we were to presuppose that argumentation and disagreement in polygamy is harmful or that it brings emotional pain to the heart of the first wife, then what we have mentioned with regards to greater benefits of polygamy takes precedence over these (presupposed harms) as is well known in the fundamental principles of Islamic Jurisprudence

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Imaam Muhammad Bin Saaleh Al Uthaimeen On Polygamy





From amongst the scholars are those who say that it is befitting to marry more than one.  It is better to marry more than one (wife) as long as a person has the financial and physical ability to fulfill their rights; seeking by it the benefits of marriage against the harms that occurs besides these benefits; because the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) had a number of wives.  Ibn Abbaas (radiyallaahu-anhumaa) said:

'The best person of this Ummah had the largest number of wives' [1]

However, it is well known that the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) did not marry wives for the purpose of fulfilling desires; rather it was for the purpose of a universal benefit, in order to be linked with every tribe.  So every Arab tribe had a link with the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) because relations by marriage and in-laws have ties of kinship.  Allaah (subhaanah) said:

'And it is He Who has created man from water, and has appointed for him kindred by blood, and kindred by marriage'

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Continued.....

The Marriages Of The Prophet Were For The Purpose Of Seeking A Universal Benefit And To Safegurad The Chastity Of Women; And Not For Lust




And from another angle, the prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) wanted (by way of his marriages) that those concealed actions of his, which could only take placed in the houses be adopted; thus his wives took that from him, and that is why much of the Sunan not (performed openly in public) were adopted from his wives (radiyallaahu-anhum).  

Likewise, his marriages were for the purpose of safeguarding the chastity of women and to bring solace to their hearts, as was the case with Safiyyah Bint Hayy (radiyallaahu-anhaa).  She (Safiyyah-radiyallaahu-anahaa) was a captive during the battle of Khaybar and her father was the leader of Banu Nadr; and without a doubt she would have been heart broken being the daughter of the leader of Banu Nadr and held as a captive; the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) wished to console her, so he married her.  

And had he (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) desired to fulfill desires (through marriage), then his wives would not have been women who had been marriage before, except one of them (i.e. Aa'isha); because without a doubt a virgin is more admirable than a woman who had been marriage before, as the Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said to Jaabir:

'Why did you not marry a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you'

Anyhow, we say, marrying a number of wives is a good thing, but it has to be with the condition mentioned by Allaah (Azza-Wa-Jal), and that is the person should be able to act justly (between his wives).

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Marry A Woman With Deen




The Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said:

'A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the woman with religion, (otherwise) you will be a loser.'

Imaam Muhammad Bin Saaleh Al-Uthaimeen (rahimahullaah) said:

A woman with Deen aids a man to obey Allaah, and his children nurtured by this woman will be righteous.  She preserves his honour in his absence; she safeguards his wealth and his house as opposed to the woman without religion, for she will harm him in future.  That is why the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: 'so you should marry the woman with Deen'

And if (she) has Deen along with beauty, wealth and nobility, then this is light upon light/excellence upon excellence.  But if not, then it is incumbent to marry the (woman) with Deen.  

And if two women were presented to a man; one of them has beauty and is free from immorality or shamelessness, and the other is less beautiful but has more Deen, which one should the man choose?  He should choose the one with more Deen.  But sometimes people are madly in love with beauty; and when they know of a beautiful woman, they are not pleased with marrying someone else other than her even if that someone else has more Deen.

And some people say: 'I will marry a woman without Deen and perhaps Allaah will guide her through me.'  We say to this person, 'We do not burden ourselves with the future, for we do not know what the future will be.  It may be that you marry her and wish that she be guided through you, but she diverts you to what she is upon and you become grieved'

To be continued......Inshaa-Allaah

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Marry A Man With Deen





Imaam Muhammad Bin Saaleh Al-Uthaimeen (rahimahullaah) continued....

On the other hand, a sinful man proposes to some people to take a wife from them, but they say it may be that Allaah will guide him.  

We say; we do not bound ourselves to the future, rather we bound ourselves to what is within our hands at present; for it may be that this man you think will become steadfast may deviate and misguide your daughter, because a man has authority over a woman.  And how many a woman adhering to her Deen gets married to a person whom she thought has Deen, and then it appears that he has no Deen and is put to great trouble with him.  

We always receive complaints from women regarding this affair, to the point that a woman may wish to run away from this man for the sake of preserving her Deen, even though she has no money with her.  So for this reason, it is obligatory to be on one's guard in these affairs, with regards to either a man's or woman's choice of a spouse for marriage.

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Taking Into Consideration The Benefits Of Choosing A Relative Or Non Relative In Marriage





The Non Relative:


It is the (woman) with whom you have no common ancestry.  She is not from the children of your uncle; rather she is from a foreign people.  The reasons for (marrying this type of woman) are two:

The First Reason;

A child born (in this marriage) will have something foreign in him; because he takes from the characteristics of his maternal uncles and that of his father's people.  So he is a (child) from two complete (human progenies) and this is something sought after.  And there are many people who have matched their maternal uncles in nobility, farsightedness and manliness.  

The Second Reason;

It may be that when the man (marries a relative), and there happens to occur an argument between him and her, then this can cause severing the ties of kinship.  For example, if there happens to occur trouble between them, he may fall into an argument with his uncle or father and this may cause severing the ties of kinship.  So in this case, marrying a foreign woman is much better.




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But if he (the man) finds amongst his relatives one who is better than this (foreign woman) due to some other considerations, then this is better; meaning: in comparing (the foreign woman to the relative), it may be that the foreign woman is better, but in taking into consideration other matters, then no doubt we give precedence to the relative.  For example, if his uncle's daughter is one has Deen and good manners, but (her and her family) are helpless and require some assistance, then no doubt in this is a great benefit (to marry your relative).

Therefore, a person has to take into consideration the benefits in this affair (of choosing a spouse).......

To be continued.....Inshaa-Allaah

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Some Beneficial Points Taken from A Small Risaalah Titled: 'The Characteristics of the Pious Wife' Written By Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Bin Abdul Muhsin Al-Badr (may Allaah preserve both the father and his son)




After praising Allaah and sending the peace and blessings of Allaah upon the Prophet, his family and companions, Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq (hafidha-hullaah) stated:

To proceed:

Indeed, the subject matter of this Risaalah, whose title is 'The Characteristics Of The Pious Wife' is not speech and an address specifically (directed) at a young woman who has consented to marriage and is desirous of acquainting herself with the characteristics of a wife, in order to furnish and prepare herself in fulfilling, accomplishing and perfecting these (characteristics)

It is not also speech and an address specifically (directed) at a married woman who wishes for those characteristics of a pious wife, in order to observe and implement them in her life; just as it is not speech and an address specifically (directed) at the woman who has deficiencies, in order to rectify that which she has of deficiencies, and as a reminder of such deficiencies in order that she is made aware of its affair alongside her precious marriage life; rather it is speech, an address and a reminder beyond all of that.

It is a reminder to the father who wishes for his daughters and those under his care to (be given) a good nurturing and an honourable life, and to enter into marriage life with what is in agreement to that which Allaah and His Messenger intend to (be the purpose) of marriage; and that this Risaalah becomes an aid for him in reminding his (daughters and those under his care) of those precise legislated Islamic regulations and qualities, which a young woman is to be nurtured upon.    

And this Risaalah is a reminder to the mother.  She is the shepherd in her house and the one with responsibility over her house, and in giving directions to her daughters.  Many daughters are brought up with various mannerisms and characteristics acquired from the mother.

This Risaalah is also a reminder to the callers to (Islaam) to give concern and importance to this affair, and to hasten in spreading these virtuous characteristics, praiseworthy manners and blessed endowments, so that they may become qualities preserved in daughters and the women in a society of Imaan and in the houses  of the believers.

To be continued.....Inshaa-Allaah

Extracted from the Shaikh's Risaalah on behalf of Markazus Salafi (Manchester) by Abu Mu-aawiyah Abdullaah Bin Abee Bakr Bin Abdullaah Bin Abu Bakr Bin Umar Al Fulaani Al-Gambi


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Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Bin Abdul Muhsin Al Badr (may Allaah preserve the father and his son) continued.......

Particularly this age we live in; (it is an age) in which the woman is attacked; an attack that has not taken place (against) her in the history of the previous ages, taking into consideration the numerous publications, the many channels and numerous ways designed to ruin the chastity, nobility, perfection, decoration, adornment, Imaan, manners and (distinguished virtuous qualities) of the woman.

Indeed in the past it was not possible for (those) corrupt calls, (those) desires guided by personal interests and (those) wrong ideas to reach the woman, except through limited channels; either (through) an evil companion or similar to that, and thus she is made to have contact with some of the evil characteristics/qualities.

As for today, the woman is made to have contact with all the filth, vile and corrupt (affairs) of the world, whilst she in the innermost part of her bedroom, without leaving her house.  The woman sits in the innermost part of her bedroom in front of a screen or the internet, or she is (made to have contact) with some of the lowly magazines/newspapers, and thus her intellect, thoughts and heart are infiltrated with every corruption and evil.

Therefore, she is in need of being righteous, chaste, committed and obedient to Allaah; (in order) to prevent herself from the passageways of evil, the means to evil and the doors to corruption.

The woman is also a great responsibility upon the one whom Allaah has placed in charge over her affairs.  It is a great affair in need of (being given) profound importance and considerable attention.

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Shaikh Abdur Razzaaq al Badr then said:


Firstly that which I shall begin with is what has come in soorah An-Nisaa, with regards to the mention of the characteristics of the pious wife. Allaah (Tabaaraka-Wata-aalaa) said:

'Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient to Allaah and to their husbands, and guard in the husband's absence what Allaah orders them to guard'[Nisaa; Ayah:34]

This section of the verse gathers (various) affairs in this subject matter. It embraces its evidences and gathers every virtuous characteristic and noble quality for the righteous woman. So this noble and blessed text shows us that the righteous wife is the one in whom are gathered two characteristics. The first characteristic is bounded to her relationship with her Lord and the second characteristic is bounded to her relationship with her master-her husband.

As for her relationship with her Lord, this is with regards to the statement of Allaah: 'Devoutly obedient'

And devout obedience is to be diligent upon obedience to Allaah, being preserved upon worship of Allaah, adhering to obedience to Allaah, and being attentive to the Islamic duties and obligations of the religion and not neglecting and ignoring them. All of this falls under the statement of Allaah: 'Devoutly obedient'

On the other hand, with regards to the statement of Allaah: 'And guard in the husband's absence what Allaah orders them to guard' That is guarding the rights of her husband and master in his absence and likewise in speech; she guards him with regards to his wealth, his bed, his rights and obligations.

And this (action/deed) that occurs from her of guarding (her husband) is (carried out) by the Tawfeeq of Allaah, His facilitation, Aid and Guidance; and that is why He (Allaah) said: 'And guard in the husband's absence what Allaah orders them to guard'

Indeed the affair (i.e. righteousness of the woman) is neither attached to it being worthy of (taking place), nor through proficiency, brightness or smartness, rather it is through the Tawfeeq of Allaah, His Guidance and Facilitation.

This reminds us of that which I mentioned a little while ago, that righteousness and guidance are (attained) through the Tawfeeq of Allaah, His Facilitation, His Aid and Him making it easily (obtained). And included in the statement of Allaah: 'devoutly Obedient' is the woman's preservation of the Islamic duties and the obligations of the religion.

There is a hadeeth of the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) with regards to this, and it is what has been collected by Ibn Hibbaan in his saheeh from the hadeeth of Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) that the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said:

'If the woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter paradise from any of its doors she wishes'

Imaam Ahmad narrates in his musnad from the hadith of Abdur-Rahmaan Bin Awf (radiyallaahu-anhu) that Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said:

'If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadaan, guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter paradise through any of its doors that you wish'

Therefore congratulations to the Muslim woman with regards to this noble promise and ample favour and goodness, which Allaah has promised her. (They are) these four deeds which can be counted on the fingers of one hand and not two. If she guards these four deeds, it would be said to her on yaumul qiyaamah: 'Enter paradise through any of its doors that you wish'

And is it not the reality with regards to the woman who is sincere to herself that she (would) concern herself with these characteristics, and (would) give importance to such endowments and is diligent in fulfilling these duties?; Guarding her five daily prayers, guarding her fasting the month of ramadaan, guarding her chastity and the rights of her husband, in order that she may attain this blessed promise and ample goodness, and so that it is said to her on yaumul qiyaamah: 'Enter Paradise through any of its doors that you wish'

Indeed the foundation of righteousness in the woman and her being righteous in the (presence of her Lord) is attached to the perfection of her obedience, her seeking to get close to (Allaah) and being diligent upon worship of (Allaah). This righteousness and steadfastness is the secret behind her happiness; it is the secret behind her prosperity and success in her entire life, as it relates to her marriage life, the uprightness of her children and progeny, and her living a blessed salubrious life.

And for this reason it is emphasized for the one who wishes good for his/her soul; and it is emphasized for those in charge of the affairs, who wish for goodness for their daughters, that they bring up their daughters upon righteousness and steadfastness; upon guarding the acts of worship and paying attention to the prescribed duties of Islaam, especially the five daily prayers and the fasting of the month of Ramadan; and being distant from everything that bears (a bad) influence upon the chastity and nobility of the woman; and it is what has been transmitted in this hadeeth that 'She guards her chastity'

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Shaikh Abdur Razzaaq (may Allaah preserve him) said:



And there are many amongst the women who are orientated towards giving importance to outward appearance/fashion when consenting to marriage.  She is orientated towards the appearance/fashion of (other) daughters of her social class and those similar to her; (saying) such and such did; (or) in the marriage of such and such they did it like this.  She is orientated by her views towards such considerations and thus bringing about extravagance, self indulgence, an increase in overspending and waste of wealth in addition to what may also occur of evil and forbidden affairs.

This starting point and introduction to marriage is the cause of a decrease in blessings, (and it is a cause) of little goodness (in marriage)

On the contrary when the woman and her family distance themselves from that; avoiding extravagance, disobedience and sin, and there is neither inconvenience and overspending nor extravagance in spending, then in this case goodness is accomplished and (receiving) blessings is warranted.

And that is why it has been transmitted in an authentic hadeeth of the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) in Sunan Abee Daawood from Uqbah Ibn Aamir (radiyallaahu-anhu) that the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said:

'The best of marriages are the easiest ones'

And in another hadeeth, the Prophet (sallal-laahua-layhi-wasallam) said:

'The women with the most blessing are the ones easiest to provide for.' [Ahmad: 25120; Nasaa'i; 9274]  Therefore the best of women are those whose affair is easy.

And for this reason it is incumbent upon the woman, and upon her father and mother to aim at making things easy, and not to make things difficult in marriage and marriage ceremonies.  (And that they aim for) humility and not exaltation and loftiness, and (that they aim for) for gentleness and perseverance and not to be given to overspending and self indulgence; for this affair has its effects on marriage life.

And if there is ease and making things easy, and being distanced from overspending, then this is a call for the beginning of blessings and continuation of good.  And if the marriage began with overspending, self indulgence, disobedience and various types of sins, then this is from the greatest causes of deprivation of blessings, and Allaah's refuge is sought.

To be continued........Inshaa-Allaah



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