Joined: Jan 2002
Can any of the students of knowledge assist this brother inshaa'allaah. |
By the way when the brother says "wolly", he means "walee".
|Bismillaah innal hamdulillaah was salaatu was salaamu 'ala muhammadan 'abduhu wa rasoollaahu wa 'ala aalihi wa sahbihi ajma'een wa ba'd... |
Asalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatu Allahi Wa Baraka tahu
In my seeking, and trying to fear Allah I ask of you brothers/sisters to post this question for the purpose of being answered by a qualified Alim, inshallah.
There is a Muslima who sent word through her newly married husband that she and her new husband are interested in me marrying her [portion removed] daughter. Initially I chuckled at the idea and never gave them a definitive answer. A few weeks passed and they mentioned it to me again, and the husband started to explain that there exist good qualities with me, (Moshallah la quwata ila bila), that interest them. After this talk I became very interested, thinking perhaps, that this may be a sign that Allah is pleased with me by sending me someone of good to tell me that they see good in me. Wallahu Alim.
Anyway, long story short...the facts are as follows:
The Salafi mother of the daughter wants me to marry her daughter.
The Salafi step-father, wants me to marry his wife's daughter.
The Salafi daughter wants me to marry her.
The biological father, who is not Salafi, of the daughter - is living, he is Muslim, but has been labeled an enemy against the Salafi Dawah, and this is known in our community. In addition to his issues with aqidah, he has been afflicted with a drug addiction, and was last known to be in a drug rehabilitation program, and / or some kind of hospital, and that his situation is so severe, that he may not live.
The Salafi step-father, in addition to being Salafi, he is amongst the most well-known callers of the Salafi Dawah in the west. Amidst all the fitnah that still goes on in the west, he is still from among those who are excepted by the scholars in the Middle East to be Khair, good [text removed] This very popular muhadary, speaker looks forward to me marry the sister, however the problem is this...
The step-father (the popular da'ee) said, with the biological father still living - the father is the sisters wolly, and with him not being a religious person, the step-father (the popular da'ee) said he is concerned that the wolly (biological father) will not recognize nor care for the good that I may posses and consequently refuse me marrying his daughter.
My question is...
Although the biological father's condition is as stated above - Can the step-father, who is a creditable Salafi, and popular da'ee, step up to be the guardian of his step-daughter in place of the non-Salafi, drug addicted, but Muslim biological father?
Jazakum Allahu Khair