ummtawaam | -- 11-11-2002 @ 12:00 AM |
As salaamu alaikum I want to know what is the ruling of the scholars in regards to the intiation of division of time between co-wifes. I read the following below, however, what is the case for a women who is not a virgin, but is a recent revert and who was never married. Does her being a new muslim make a difference in the matter? Also based on what is below, if the husband gave the new wife 7 days, then he would have to do 7 days with the current wife, does this time have to be immediately after or in increments? And then the regular time would start, say every 2 days? Also do the wives have any input in how they would like the days divided. What general naseehah would you give the people embarking on this, who have no good examples of polygany being practiced in their region? Jazakallahu khair for any replies in advance ............ Question: If a man marries a second wife, how should he start fair treatment between his two wives? Answer: Praise be to Allaah. Ibn Qudaamah said: If he marries a virgin, he should stay with her for seven nights, then start alternating (between his wives). If he marries a previously-married woman, then he should stay with her for three nights. That is because Abu Qulaabah narrated that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "It is part of the Sunnah, if a man marries a virgin after marrying a previously-married woman, that he should stay with her for seven days, then start sharing his time, and if he marries a previously-married woman, he should stay with her for three days, then start sharing his time." Abu Qulaabah said: If you wish, you may say that Anas attributed this to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and it is agreed upon. If the previously-married woman wants him to stay with her for seven days, then he should do that, and make it up to the other wives later on , because Umm Salamah narrated that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stayed wit Al-'Iddah Sharh al-'Umdah by Ibn Qudaamah al-Maqdisi, p. 479
|
|
SalafiTalk.Net : | http://www.salafitalk.net/st |
Topic: | http://www.salafitalk.net/st/viewmessages.cfm?Forum=6&Topic=599 |