this may help the brother:
http://salafipublications.com/sps/sp.cfm?subsecID=TZK03&articleID=TZK030001&articlePages=1
http://salafipublications.com/sps/sp.cfm?subsecID=TZK05&articleID=TZK050010&articlePages=1
http://salafipublications.com/sps/sp.cfm?subsecID=TZK05&articleID=TZK050012&articlePages=1
also, you may advise the brother to seek the council of one of the du'aat here in the west (i mean go to their localities and talk face-to-face with them). perhaps they can help him through this rough patch in his life. and you may remind the brother to be open to the help that he does get, as many of the advices he's been given come from allaah and his messenger (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam), and are in fact life preservers that he seems to be disregarding.
aboo husaam shaheed ibn george williams
wichita, ks usa
This message was edited by shahid393 on 4-18-04 @ 5:12 PM
aboo husaam shaheed ibn george williams
wichita, ks usa
This message was edited by shahid393 on 4-18-04 @ 5:16 PM
First of all I ask Allah with His beautiful names to make this brother's situation easy. As it seems; this brother first of all; needs to get out of the house and sit and hang out with the rest of the brothers. I say this because; Shaytaan (May Allah curse him) will take every opportunity to whisper into the brother's head to do all kinds of ugly sins. The brother should not leave out the Jamaa'ah: This will make things worse.
Also; you need to explain to the brother that using qamr will not solve his problem; rather it will make the situation worse. The brother should know that the only thing that settles the heart is by increasing in the rememberance of Allah and keeping to the Salwaats with patience. Furthermore, the brother should not abandon his study of the the religion, because this will be a means of inviting Shaytaan to take over.
I have seen this happen to many brothers; the only solution for this problem is by increasing one's obedeince to Allah. In addition, the brother should read and contemplate on the words of Allaamah Ibn Qayim (rahimuhallah Ta'aala).
quote:
The best (worship) at the time when calamities strike and when the people harm you: Maintaining the obligated patience while still accompanying them rather than running away from them. For indeed, the believer that mixes with the people and is patient with their harm is better than the one who does not mix with them and they do not harm him.
The best (worship) is to accompany them in good, for it is better than being isolated from them (without cooperating in it). Yet, remaining isolated from them regarding evil is better than accompanying them (while cooperating) in it. However, if he knows that by his mixing with him, he is able to remove it (the evil) or decrease it, then his mixing with them is better than his isolation from them.
So the best (worship) at every time and circumstance: Giving precedence to pleasing Allaah at that particular time and situation and occupying oneself with what that time obligates and requires and what it is intended for.
These are the people of absolute worship. They are the best of those who worship Allaah 'Azza Wa Jall.
[Taken from the website. www.tazkiyah.org]
Also; the brother should read the following article
quote:
http://www.bakkah.net/articles/LifeIsAFitnah.htm
By Allah upon reading this post I could not sleep as I have seen this happen to many brothers and the only onces who made it out were those who had much fear in Allah. And they allowed others (Muslims) to help them. Furthermore,if the brother is told to be patient and fast; than he should take this; as it was the advice of our Prophet (Salalahu Allahi wa salaam). Inshallah; those other brothers in the community should really be more involved with this brother and try to help him out through this sitaution...Inshallah
My finally advice for this brother is to not let Shaytaan dictate for him what to do and how to solve the problem, for verily he is an open enemy.
May Allah Keep All Of Us Safe From Fitnah In Any Form...ameen
Wa Salaamu Allaykum Wa Rahmatullah